It is all over now . . .
The chaos, the hectic life – the silence. It is all just over. I feel it too, you know what I mean? It is that void, that emptiness, that feeling that you are supposed to be doing something. It does not help that I also quit my job. It is like the calm after the storm, or beginning to tackle something so enormous that you just do not know where to begin.
But begin I shall. And it will be a new beginning at that. It is high time I begin to restructure my life and go in not necessarily the right direction, but the right direction for me.
A few weeks ago Steven showed me this picture.
I can only hope that I make success in life look like as close to the one on the left as possible.
Anyways, I am not going to find success working in a mall kiosk – that’s for sure. I found a great way to ruin my marriage though. The last few weeks, things were not looking good for us. The last few months and arguably the last two years, retail had sucked the happiness out of our lives – and our marriage.
We rarely ever saw each other, and when we did – we were bickering about the most meaningless stuff. When I had energy to do something, he did not, and when he did – I didn’t.Don’t worry, the evil “D” word had never reared its ugly head, but that doesn’t mean that we both knew it couldn’t go on like that forever. It is true that everyone fights occasionally. It is just important to really be only occasionally, not all the time. And worse if it happens every day.
Until I started working in retail, we almost never fought. In fact I can only think of one real argument, before going into retail, it is water under the bridge now – the point is that before I started working in retail, we were definitely a couple others would be envious of.
You know the kind. The couple you can just tell is genuinely happy to be together, the couple who can’t take their eyes off of each other even after being together for a few years.
Yeah, we were that couple – and the good news is we are becoming them again.
It has only been a week since I quit working in the mall and already, I feel like a new person.
If you really think about it, I would guess that retail and a number of jobs like it are in fact harmful to relationships and the family structure. Especially if one partner’s schedule is nearly the polar opposite of the other’s. Sometimes people do what they must to get by and to make ends meet, but at what cost?
Last Sunday was the first time, without requesting off that I did not work in nearly two years and Saturdays were just as trying. My job, which barely provided us with extra money, kept me . . . it kept us from living our lives together – from being a family.
Most people live their lives in the Nine to Five realm. Why should those who work retail be any different? Why is it that people, all people, cannot be expected to get everything they need during the week, savoring the weekend for family and friends?
If you work in an office or any establishment that is open Monday through Friday, you know that Mondays and Fridays are pretty busy days, which tells me that being closed on weekends only puts the work from those days into the days during the week. By that same logic, what people would normally do on weekends they will do in smaller increments throughout the week.
Go shopping somewhere on a Monday and just see what it looks like. Fridays are pretty busy, because it is pay-day and the start of the weekend. But really, I dare you to venture out on a Monday or any other day – during the week and see what it looks like.
Stop shopping on weekends, stop going to restaurants. Make Monday to Friday, when people, all people are working.
Take Saturdays and Sundays for spending time with your family, away from the hustle and bustle of it all. Enjoy a park, go for a walk and by all means – spend time with one another.
If we all change our habits, refuse to shop on the weekends (anywhere but the Saturday morning farmer’s market that is) we can create a world where businesses choose to close on Saturdays and Sundays, because it is not worth it for them, financially, to stay open.
Certainly, restaurants and other retail establishments would have to stay open longer hours, but with Saturdays and Sundays off . . . we all would have an opportunity to live our lives, have leisure time and actually ENJOY IT!
I think about all the weekends wasted, when I could have enjoyed life with my family, my friends and my husband – and that is not the life I choose to live. That is not the life that we should choose to live.
Would it really be so horrible?
If nothing was open anytime other than Monday to Friday? Is our compulsion to shop that important? Are we as a human race, no longer capable of finding ways to entertain ourselves on the weekends, which involve spending time with one another?
Is it not possible that if we still want to shop and spend money that we could do so during the week – make that our normal behavior? And make spending time with one another, family and friends our priority for the weekend.
I dare you to try it. I dare you to not do anything after 12pm noon on Saturdays or on Sundays, which requires anyone else to go to work. Can you do it? Can you make that change so that businesses make the change?
The Occupy Movement has it, but they do not have it all. They are missing one key component: before corporations will put people over profits, we as a people must put people over our need to consume, to shop, to spend.
In the end, what is really important? Watching that television program on the couch, so you can spend the weekend shopping? Or running a quick errand or two during the week and spending the weekend living life with the people you love and care about?
Thanks for stopping by the Middle Brick Road, I hope you enjoyed this post. My name is Kacey and I am really big on health and all things natural – freedom – politics and bringing change by abandoning the boxes we too often put ourselves in.
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